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In less than 12hrs (downunder that is), it will be a whole new year. And tonight, lots of people will be celebrating. What will make 2012 the best year ever for you?

I’m planning to do some incredible things. I’m planning to accomplish some long-time goals, and get over a few hurdles that have been holding me back. Physically, mentally, and emotionally, I’d like to be in harmony with my true authentic self.

And it all starts right now.

As we head into a new year together, I want to take this opportunity to encourage you to give yourself a break right now. 2011 may have not turned out how you would have liked, but if you waste your energy focusing on what could have been you may miss the opportunities put before you to move forward in 2012!

It is a sad statistic that more people give up the fight at this time of year than at any other. They feel they have failed again, not moving forward at all, and wonder if it is all worth it. Over the many hours of sitting with people, listening to their story, I have compiled a list of things to avoid when I assess my year.

* comparing myself to others,
* measuring my success by “things gained” or “tasks completed”,
* over thinking and dwelling on past mistakes, and
* the negative influences and words spoken over me by others.

Drawing a line in the sand and deciding to move forward, despite the past, is the only way to start your journey into a bigger, better 2012. We remove the power our past can have over us by only spending time on the “past” side of the line long enough to reflect on what we can learn from to build a better future, whilst enjoying the present.

* Who did I help in 2011?
* What new skills did my year help me develop?
* What have I got to be thankful for?
* Who did I get to meet?
* Why am I doing what I have chosen to do?
* What is really important to me and why?

Take a look at your life like a small fishing boat. The boat itself represents our present, sometimes on calm waters, other times tossed by storms and sometimes it seems like it is sinking. Our past can be an anchor or an engine, we choose. One stops us from moving forward and the other propels us forward, moving us into calmer waters.

Let me encourage you that no matter how stormy the seas may look for you at the moment, don’t abandon ship. Pull up your anchor, let go of 2011, set a well planned course into 2012 and rely on the power of the engine to bring stability back into your life.

Dive into 2012!

Here are a few guidelines for the journey:
* Only bring people into your boat that wants you to move forward,
* Have a clear path set with contingencies for uncharted waters,
* Stop comparing your boat to the other ones around you,
* Surround yourself with “lighthouse” people, who can warn you when you are moving too close to the rocks,
* Throw unnecessary items overboard like past hurts, conflicts and unforgiveness, and
* Make a decision to spend more time enjoying the ride in the boat knowing it is the boat you have been called to be the captain of.

Thank you so much for allowing me to share my life experiences with you. I hope in some small way I have been able to encourage you to believe in your inner winner; the powerful Champion within “YOU”. Take a break, service your boat engine, clean the decks and I look forward to a bigger and brighter 2012 with you.

Lots of your “gold” coming your way!
Cheers Shelley Taylor-Smith

PS: Need a dose of tough love? Why not allow me to help you set your course and guide you to achieve your gold as your coach you in the Champion Mindset’s Goal Planning System “GPS” Program. Designed by me! Coached by me! Be coached 1on1 with only Shelley Taylor-Smith. Call 0414 594 245. For more info: http://www.championmindset.com.au/successCoach.htm

Are you ready to design your day, your year?
Tuesday, December 6th, 2011

Right now… someone has their head in their hands saying to themselves: “What did I achieve today? I did not get through even half of my to-do list! What happened?”

Sound familiar?

Question: How do I achieve what I want in any given day?
Answer: Focus ONLY on what’s MOST important each day…

Are You Ready To Design Your Day?

To achieve your dreams… to maintain balance in the heat of the battle… to know that you have done the best you could given the circumstances you faced… requires you to focus on the important, and not be consumed by the urgent. This is a major driver of success, both personally and professionally. It is not hard to focus, if you know what’s important to you, and what’s not.

For any task to be a priority, it must have more importance than something else. Importance comes from your values, goals and commitments.

Design your day around achieving your primary goals.

Here are 3 questions to get you focused and in the zone of designing your day right now…

1. What has been the focal point of your day so far?
2. Check your schedule today. Which tasks are designed to get you closer to your goals?
3. Tomorrow, when you schedule and prioritise your tasks, which task will you put in your most productive time slot?

Without question, the Results you actually GET in the TIME you have… will determine your ultimate success or failure.

Peace of mind comes from knowing you have done your very best. If you have, day-by-day, achieved the best that is in you, what more is there?

That’s right, nothing.

However, you owe it to your life to actually give your best—consistently.

You owe it to yourself, and everyone around you, to make absolutely certain that you are operating at peak performance… putting your God-given Champion gifts and talents to their highest and best use.

If you want to produce better results this week, you can.

Focus On The Important… Not The Urgent…

To achieve your dreams…

to maintain balance in the heat of the battle…

to know that you have done the best you could given the circumstances you faced…

requires you to focus on the important, and not be consumed by the urgent.

This is a major driver of success, both personally and professionally. It is not hard to focus, if you know what’s important to you, and what’s not.

Doing Your Champion Best Means… Focusing on First Things First.

Champion Action Time:
1. Set aside 30 minutes in your diary and title the task: DOING MY BEST FIRST!

2. Write out what you hope to accomplish next year. What will make you feel GREAT next year at this time, when you look back on the year that was?

3. Now set aside 30 minutes in your diary for tomorrow or a day that you can complete the following task: WHY DOING MY BEST IS SO IMPORTANT TO ME! I want you to explain to yourself WHY this is so IMPORTANT to you.

(i) My Hopes For 2012…FAMILY is Important because……………..
(ii) My Hopes for 2012 …FRIENDS is Important because…………..
(iii) My Hopes for 2012 …MYSELF is Important because……….

Look closely at what you have written down.

How are you going to move these hopes off this page and into your life?

The simple answer: By constantly remaining focused on the important, and not permit life’s urgencies to wear you down and wear you out.
Right now your list is only a list. It is a reflection of what you HOPE you will achieve.

The simple fact is, when you prioritise your life, you determine where your time will produce the most rewarding and satisfying results; based on your priorities on your personal list of values, goals and commitments.

Urgency is a quality given to something requiring immediate attention

…regardless of its relative value. You can spend years chasing down one urgency after another.

Or, you can focus on top priorities and ensure that what’s most important to you actually shows up in your life.

By choosing priorities over urgencies, you stop reacting to circumstances and start creating a life of power, passion and purpose.

Cheers to designing your day and year 2012
Head Coach Shelley

PS: Can’t get your head around focusing on you? Neglecting yourself Can’t put your best self first? You just need someone to get you focused on the things that matter.

Email Head Coach Shelley at champion@championmindset.com.au (or Tough Love Coach as her clients call her) and let her help you develop a clear plan to get your business, your career, your life… on track and keep it that way. And you’ll be kept accountable to ensure you stick to the plan and realise your business or objectives. (Sounds like a smart investment to me.)

Why It Pays To Be Vulnerable…
Thursday, July 28th, 2011

When was the last time you did something truly vulnerable and shared it with your clients and prospects; even your family and friends?

I hope it was within the last week. You may think I’m crazy for saying this (or you may think it’s a no-brainer), but –

By being YOU is the perfect place to show a bit of your humanity… to let them in on some of your mistakes, as well as how you overcame them.

Yes it is a a risk. But it’s also good practice. Practice being vulnerable, that is. There is a connection between vulnerability, approachability and profitability. When you open yourself to the world, the world will opens its wallet to you. But only if you’re willing to strip away the superficialities and occupy your vulnerability.

There are two BIG reasons why you want to be vulnerable:
1. Showing that you’re vulnerable builds trust and understanding. People will like you better and want to connect if they get a sense of who you are under all that “expertise” or skill.
2. Being real is more fun and… well, more real!

Shelley with fellow FINA TOWSC member, Steven Munatones (USA) Director www.OpenWaterSource.com

Shelley with fellow FINA TOWSC member, Steven Munatones (USA) Director www.OpenWaterSource.com

And last week I did just that! I “stuffed-up” in my role as Technical Official at the FINA World Swimming Championships in Shanghai, China. I was told it is unacceptable to take photos whilst officiating on the feeding pontoon. Forget the fact that the photos were taken at a time when the race was happening 200m away and other officials were also violating this protocol, I had to “cop it on the chin” in front of forty-five international officials.

When I started writing the Champion Mindset Motivation ezine back in 2001, I had this idea that I needed to know more, seem perfect and be the “wise one” having achieved amazing feats as a 7-time World Champion with a proven track record of success.

Now in the Champion Mindset workshops and Mental Toughness coaching programs, I admit I have “stuffed-up” many times, even failed and then bounced back to go on and achieve higher heights due to my inner resilience; which has shown more of myself and relates to my clients.

So when I hear team managers, coaches and even small business owners say they don’t know enough to serve their niche market, it reminds me of me back then. But that’s just a lie we tell ourselves.

Of course, showing your vulnerability at 1on1 meetings educates your clients, colleagues and team mates. Some managers/team leaders/coaches will correct mistakes or take them step-by-step through how to do something. But your tips will land more deeply if you also share how you got there — which is almost always about fumbling into competency, right?

When I launched my Think Like A Champion blog in 2008, I started following some pro bloggers like Peter Godfrey, and I witnessed in his blog posts a kind of take-me-as-I-am transparency that really appealed to me. I noticed his posts attracted lots of comments.

So I shifted my approach by determining my target audience and developing strategies whilst redefining my own Champion Brand (the Business of Me) and as a result my motivational presentations and personal branding workshops are receiving rave reviews. I delivered the Champion Brand Promise and unleashed my inner winner sharing; “I’m comfortable in my own skin… and all its wobbly bits!” And it’s paying off.

Who knew? (You might be saying “Well duh, Shelley” but really, I’m not the only one this is a new paradigm for.)

This is the age of social networking. This is a time when having more fun and being more real is good business. The goal is to show more of who you are — just a regular Joe Blow or Jane Doe — while you also show your unique style, your extraordinary qualities and know how.

Believe me; you have a great story to tell. Everyone does. And stories rock! These stories are your Champion Brand Signature Style and knowing how to identify and present yourself by getting them into your marketing, your networking, your team meetings… everywhere where you connect with your people is the key to turning your know-how into profit or promotion.

Tell me what you think about this whole vulnerability thing and your brand signature style in the COMMENTS below. When you stuff-up what do you do and focus on to bounce back? If you’re hip to it, thanks for leading the way. If it’s new to you, I double dare you to share your vulnerability with your team/colleagues/family once a week!

And thanks for your loyalty with me through all the ways I keep learning to help you to get comfortable in your own skin, define, design and deliver your Champion Brand to dominate your marketplace / niche industry and achieve your goals better.

Cheers to you becoming the Champion of your own world!
Shelley Taylor-Smith

PS: following being reprimanded for my stuff-up in Shanghai, many officials offered their support saying they too have made errors and to not sweat the small stuff! Also I was reminded that I created history becoming the first female Chief Referee in a Men’s Open Water Swimming FINA World Championship event. (NB: achieved first for female Chief Referee in FINA World OWS Championships Roberval 2010) [read more...]

The BOMShell is happening around Australia! The Business of Me with Shelley Taylor-Smith: How to Use the Power of Personal Branding to Create Your Own Champion Brand workshops in Perth on Thursday, 11th August 2011. Sydney & Melbourne TBA September 2011.

Inspiration Unlimited - Dr Randy Pausch
Friday, March 20th, 2009

I’ve seen Randy Pausch Last lecture multiple times on YouTube and everytime I hear what he says, I feel a tingle up my spines (in a good way) and always get my eyes watering.

Here’s a 10min version of his last lecture from the Oprah Winfrey Show, instead of full 1 hour lecture.

So I hope you don’t give yourself an excuse not to watch this for 10mins! It will change your life.

Cheers Shelley

PS: Enjoy the journey as you go for gold and Think Like A Champion!

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