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The best way to a Great 2010 is….
Monday, January 4th, 2010

How exciting, this is the 1st Monday of the New Year!

The best way to a great 2010 is to prepare yourself for an exciting month. January is a very important month for many reasons…it is the first day of the first 90 days of the 2nd decade of the new millenium.

Any of you that have worked with me knows that I am big believer in setting a single 90 day goal. That is right, ONE clear goal for the next 90 days. This exercise will make your prioritise what you are focusing on.

If you are not currently working with a clear 90 day goal then this is the day to set ONE. It may help to take a moment and review what you accomplished in 2009. Write down what you have accomplished on the way to your last goal. Whether you achieved the specific goal or not doesn’t matter.

NB: Before you set yourself up for the next 90 days, I highly recommend if you have not already done so, to do a clean sweep out and declutter so you start 2010 with a clean slate!

Focus on what did you achieve in the last 90 days? Write down the positives that matter to you. Be alert for increased energy and passion.When your energy is up then set your next 90 day goal!!!

Your 90 day goal is your own. Pay attention to this fact. If you own your business then you are on the way to achieving the lifestyle of your dreams and you will have always achieved something else in the process. Some sort of recognition or acknowledgement.

Once you have your 90 day goal defined, look at it and ask yourself,
“What do I have to accomplish this month to achieve this goal?”

From here you set your monthly targets. And then ask yourself,
“What do I have to do TODAY to move towards my monthly targets”

Write down your daily goal, and take action. Now is a fantastic time to set a 90 day goal and set you up for achieving your goals in 2010.

The best way to achieve your Resolutions and goals in 2010 is to keep it simple.

How do you keep it simple you may well ask? Directions: Plan your way to success with these six Who, What, Where, When, How and Why questions. They will help you to clarify your goal, deadlines, and corresponding action items.

1. What is the specific goal that you want to achieve?
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2. Why do you want to achieve this goal?
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3. Where are you currently starting from as it relates to this goal?
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4. How will you achieve this goal? List each individual action step and deadline.
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5. Who will be involved in helping you achieve this goal? Identify their specific role.
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6. When will you achieve this goal? Identify a specific date.
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“Life will not go according to plan, if you do not have a plan!”

Cheers Shelley Taylor-Smith

PS: Need help planning your 2010 strategy and goals. Call Shelley on 1300 78 41 70 today to Pick Shelley’s Brain for 15mins for fre.E! Or check out the Champion Mindset Motivation & Mental Toughness Coaching Program. Begins Monday 4th January 2010.

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Day 40: 50-day Challenge - Are you proud of what you have accomplished this year?
Monday, December 21st, 2009

We’re in the final countdown…only 10 days left in this first decade of this new millenium. So it leads me to ask one of the most important questions at this time of year…Are you proud of what you have accomplished this year?

Without question, the key to long-term success is constantly taking positive action to move in the direction of your dreams and goals. Sustained action gives you an indomitable will power to achieve your goals into your LIFE!

As those of you who are Champion Mindset Motivation subscribers, my definition of success is simply this: “No matter where you finish, as long as you have given 100% you’re a winner. This is the peace of mind that comes from knowing you have given your best.”

As General Patton says, if you do your best, what more is there?
So the question becomes, “Have you done the BEST that is in you?”

Or, put a bit more “personal”…
Are You Proud of What You Have Accomplished This Year?

During the past month as you have participated in the 50-day Challenge, I have asked you to look FORWARD to what you hope to accomplish this year and next. Right now I want you to look BACK over 2009, and reflect on what you have DONE—to specifically focus on your achievements.

Yes, I know that this may be more difficult for you than looking into the future and writing down some meaningful goals. However, this is a more important exercise than you can even begin to imagine—as what you have done is a precursor to what you will do.

In a way, I want you to hold yourself ACCOUNTABLE for the time you spent here in the first decade of the new millenium this past year. You did the time…what did you get in trade?

Your Champion Action Today: What are you most PROUD of?
Please take a few moments to write down your major achievements for 2009, broken into 3 groups:
Family, Friends and of course, Yourself:

FAMILY ___________________________________________________

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FREINDS __________________________________________________

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YOURSELF ___________________________________________________

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“The real contest is always between what you’ve done and what you’re capable of doing. You measure yourself against yourself and nobody else.” ~ Geoffrey Gaberino

Look closely at what you have written down. The real question becomes, how closely do your achievements align with your personal mission and living your life ON purpose?

Could you have accomplished even more this year if your goals were better aligned with your living your life on purpose? Do you in fact have the peace of mind that comes from knowing that you have done your very best?

Yes? Fabulous! Keep going and keep growing. Or, do you feel that had you been a bit more committed and engaged this year, you would have been able to achieve even more?

If so, here’s something to think about…..”If you are living your life on PURPOSE; are you willing to trade the only life you have to live in pursuit of it?” Are you?

When you are working toward an ideal that comes from the heart, you are naturally motivated and driven to do your best. A thoughtfully created, highly desirable life purpose is guaranteed to make you highly focused, powerful and productive.

Act from your deepest Champion core values, and they will provide you with direction and satisfaction.

Connect and recommit to your life purpose every day. If you don’t, you’re trading the only life you have for things that simply don’t matter.

Whatever you do, come the end of the next decade I do not want you looking back and saying: “I wish I could’ve, should’ve” Now that would be a waste of your life.

And remember: if you don’t quit…you will make it!
Cheers Shelley Taylor-Smith

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Day 38: 50-day Challenge - How to deal with behaviours that Peeve People Off
Friday, December 18th, 2009

How often do you run into PPO’s?:
(Behaviours that Peeve People Off!)

Well it’s that time of the year when we’re all in a rush during the Silly Season and for some strange reason our manners seem to go out the window. So courtesy of Sue-Maree from h-spot Pty Ltd who helps people find their h-spot to be happier, healthier and more successful.

I often see people dishing out PPO’s. Sometimes other people are on the receiving end. Sometimes it’s me on the receiving end!

PPO’s create problems between people in just about every workplace and every home every day - creating stress, anxiety, ill-will, distrust, payback, retaliation - ouch!

So in the interests of better relationships - both personal and professional - let’s check out a list of the “Top 10 PPO’s”:

Top 10 PPO’s Behaviours that “Peeve People Off”!

At number 10:Taking priority over others.
No discussion, no agreement… people taking priority over others just because they want it, and can get away with it!

Number 9: Making assumptions about others.
People making assumptions based on limited (and often selective) information. Just as others don’t know the totality of what’s really going on with us, we don’t know the totality of what’s really going on with others!

Number 8: Jumping to conclusions about others.
Ditto. What applies to making assumptions also applies to jumping to conclusions. People jumping to conclusions based on limited (and often selective) information. Just as others don’t know the totality of what’s really going on with us, we don’t know the totality of what’s really going on with others!

Number 7: Forcing responsibilities on others.
No discussion, no agreement. People using whatever level of manipulation/deception/coercion/force it takes to get others to do what they want!

Number 6: Taking responsibilities from others
Again, no discussion, no agreement. People using whatever level of manipulation/deception/coercion/force it takes to “take over” others rightful responsibilities - with or without their knowledge.

Number 5: Setting limits and dictating rules… and imposing them on others.
No discussion and no agreement. People setting limits and dictating rules that work for them, then using whatever power they have to impose them on others.

Number 4: Making decisions… and imposing them on others.
Again, no discussion and no agreement. People making decisions based on what they think is “best” or “right” then using whatever power they have to force them on others.

Number 3: Demanding compliance and obedience from others.
People demanding others do what they want / need / think is “right”. As if their way is the right way, and other people’s wants and needs are less important than theirs. Again, no discussion and no agreement.

Number 2: Manipulating behaviour with rewards and/or punishments.
People rewarding and punishing others using whatever power they have to bestow or withhold based on their judgement of how well other people “measure up” to what they think is “right” or “acceptable”.

At Number 1 on our list of Top 10 PPO’s (drumroll please!) basically, what most PPO’s boil down to:
Number 1: Abuse of Power.
People using “power plays” to manipulate/deceive/coerce/force others to do what they want - at others expense!

“Hey! What’s going on??!!” It’s easy to see how behaviours like these PPO!
(”peeve” being a gross understatement in many situations!).

Your Champion Action Today:
3 questions to improve your communication skills (and your relationships!):
1. When (if ever) am I on the receiving end of PPO behaviours?
2. What do I typically do when I’m on the receiving end?
3. When (if ever) am I dishing out PPO behaviours? (Even without realizing it?)
Now here’s some ideas on how to respond…

CCC’s for PPO’s: Cool, Calm, Collected responses to behaviours that Peeve People Off!

Common defensive reactions to PPO’s result from taking it personally, and striking out (by attacking others) or sucking it up (as a way to protect ourselves).

Before we go getting hot under the collar about what people seem to be doing and use either of these strategies, here’s a suggestion:

Check It Out That means turning our attention to whatever it is people seem to be doing, and check it out. We do it by reflecting back to people what we think is happening - as a QUESTION (not an accusation!). For example;

Are you making assumptions about me/them?
You’re jumping to conclusions about me/them?
Are you trying to force your responsibilities on me/them?
You’re trying to manipulate me/them with rewards and punishments?

Get the idea?

If people claim not to be doing it, we can simply respond; No? Ok then. (and move on)

Whatever’s happening, to check it out is a simple 2-step process;
Use a question frame, for example;

**Are you …
**Are you trying to …
**You’re …
**You’re trying to …

Add whatever it is people seem to be doing;

…taking priority over me/them?
…making assumptions about me/them?
…jumping to conclusions about me/them?
…forcing your responsibilities on me/them?
…taking responsibilities from me/them?
…setting limits and dictating rules & imposing them on me/them?
…making decisions & imposing them on me/them?
…demanding compliance and obedience from me/them?
…manipulating my/their behaviour with rewards/punishments?
…abusing your power to get me/them to do what you want?

If people aren’t doing what you think they’re doing - it’s a good thing to have cleared the air … to have set the record straight.

If people are doing what you think they’re doing, this simple technique is often enough to stop the behaviour in it’s tracks. And if it doesn’t … there’s more about it in the book.

If you’d like to understand more about what’s going on in these situations, and what you can do to handle situations like these without striking out, or sucking it up. If you’d like to handle even the most difficult situations with respect for yourself and others - with class and style you can be proud of (and other people will admire) - it’s absolutely doable, in fact it’s easy… when you have the right skills.

In fact if you want to learn why people use PPO’s, how to communicate without using PPO’s, and how to deal with it when other people are using PPO’s on you! In short, “what hurts” and “what works” in communication…then email the Champion Mindset office@championmindset.com.au for your copy of “What’s Going On? An Exploration of Communication - What Hurts & What Works” complimentary copy by Sue-Maree.

and remember: if you don’t quit, you will make it.
Cheers Shelley Taylor-Smith

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